What do you know for sure?

Tonight I am wondering about the unknown in life.  I read that more Mayan tablets have been found and the world goes on until 2026.  The bookstores have shelves of books about the Mayan calendar ending in 2012 along with life as we know it.

My sister-in-law’s mother moved on to the next world this week and I wonder what her new world looks like.  I hope it is a beautiful garden, Sandy would like that.  Will she go and stay somewhere or is there a short rest before starting again?

Then I understand that we are all energy beings, which is why EKG’s and EEG’s can measure heart and brain waves. Yet every now and then on a day that I allow only reality, as the world knows it, to rule, it is hard to believe in energy work like EFT,  healing touch, or cranio-sacral treatments.

I am not sure Feng Shui matters,  yet Jill had a dog bed in her abundance corner and in months went from 1 old dog  to 3 (soon to be 4) dogs!

I have watched hypnosis work  over and over for more than 30 years but can’t explain how the mind works. Life seems to be like an optical illusion we all see different things and some times it seems to change right in front of you. Tonight I know that life may be nothing more than an illusion and what I think is true may change when more details appear.

The only thing I know for sure  is until I figure a few things out I am going to check my abundance corner!


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Taking Inventory or Happy Birthday

Two of my friends are having birthdays this weekend.There is 20 years difference in their ages and both are amazing women. The younger woman I have known for three years and the older woman has been my friend for more than 30 years. Now although I think it is useful to take an inventory every about where we are in our life, I don’t think it is appropriate to do an inventory for someone elses life. However it is quite appropriate for me to do a personal inventory about what their friendship means in my life.
1.They make me laugh which is the best stress management in the world.
2. They inspire me to be better, because a friend already thinks you are good enough.
3. I can say what I am thinking and they know I may be just thinking out loud, so they don’t hold me to it.
4. They trust me enough to be who they are and allow me the same privilege, even if somedays it is not our best self.
5. A friend helps you with your ideas if they are important to you even if they don’t understand what you are doing.
6. My friends are compassionate.
7. They are strong woman and together we are even stronger.
8. They are not afraid to reinvent themselves.
9. They are grateful for life, beauty, husbands, kids, grandkids, and lucky for me friendships.
10.They are working for the greater good in our world,and have no intention of stopping even if they are tired or frustrated.

I think that Jean Shinoda Bolen, M.D. said it best in her book “Crones Don’t Whine.”
“A crone is a woman that has wisdom, compassion, humor, courage, and vitality. She has a sense of truly being herself, can express what she knows and feels, and take action when need be. She does not avert her eyes or numb her mind from reality. She can see the flaws and imperfections in herself and others, but the light in which she sees is not harsh and judgemental. She has learned to trust herself to know what she knows.”

Happy Birthday Roxy and Lisa, I hope you both live to be 100 and continue to allow me to be your friend.

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Have a brave heart as you face your dragon!

  I was thinking about some of the stories I heard this week and how some of the people I listened to were living as the hero of their own lives. We all are challenged by our own dragons and we find helpers along the way to talk to and bounce ideas off of. We need a Braveheart to face the changes. If we can remember the people who have gone before us and the stories than inspire us we can use them as a pattern.
I have been researching the history of some of the early settlers of our village and writing  their stories for a historical reenactment we are doing at the Fall Festival in October. How different life was in the 1800’s compared to now. People were brave enough to try something completely new moving far from their homes to places were they had nothing. I read about people who had small children, and lived in a hut with 1/2 a roof, no furniture until they had time to make it and little food until they had time to grow and preserve it. The stories are inspirational. They suffered poverty, sickness and war. But in the big picture we are all the same with different dragons. We all want the same thing. We all want to be loved and to love, we want to take care of our families and to have a purpose. We would choose to be healthy and have some time for fun. It is what people have always wanted.
It only seems sensible to learn from those that went before us. We know that we get more of what we think about. You can call it a self-fulfilling prophecy or think of it as your reticular activating system focusing on what your subconscious is desiring and creating new neural pathways. In other words we get more of what we think about. Moses Shongo an old Native American wrote in the 1800’s “Free yourself from negative influences. Negative thoughts are the old habits that gnaw at the roots of the soul.” This is the time to think of your heroes whether they are in this world or the next and learn from them.
So the tip for this week is that if you compare your life to what your ancestor had to do to just survive you feel lucky. Remember to focus on what you want and let go of what you don’t want. As Dorie says in Finding Nemo,”Just keep swimming”.
Have a brave heart my fellow travelers in this wild, precious world!

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Sky Blue Dreams Anniversary


This article is a bit late, probably because the random thoughts I normally think were more random than usual and I couldn’t find a common theme to pull them together into something sensible. So instead, I began to look back.

Looking back, we are approaching our third anniversary at Sky Blue Dreams. When we started, Jill and I were still in the process of becoming hypnotists. Jane is an instructor for the National Guild of Hypnotists and wanted our help in making her dream come true. Her dream was a wellness center where anyone could come for help. That dream felt important to me, so I un-retired myself and joined her. Jill, an artist, knows that creating the beauty that others can enjoy also adds light to their life. The gift shop carries a wonderful mix of beauty, practicality and whimsy. In regard to the whimsy, the first time we came into the building to decide whether it would work for us, we all heard very faint music. It was light and charming, but since we still haven’t found the source we’ve accepted that the fairies who live here approve of us, probably because we have so many fairy houses for them to choose from.

Jane’s dream was to help people. She knew from experience that hypnosis works and wanted to use her knowledge to make a difference. She was already doing medical hypnosis at the Lake Delton Clinic, and teaching classes there very effectively. Opening a center in Oxford would make it easier for people in this area to access any of the services she wanted to offer. With all her certifications in things like stress management, pain management and so many more, she could make a difference. And I believe we have. So many people, when they walk into our spaces, tell us that if feels so peaceful and restful. That’s the effect we strive for, to have an area of calm that people can use.

Since we opened in September 2009, we’ve added yoga which is so good for strength and flexibility for all ages. Our Lotus Room is a comfortable space which we’ve made available to others. Some people like to use it for meditation. There are other practitioners who schedule appointments or classes there. They offer EFT, Healing Touch, CranioSacral, Acupuncture, Massage, Reiki, Chiropractic care and Qigong. We are making progress in our programs for veterans. During these past three years, we’ve been fortunate enough to meet so many wonderful people who believe in what we are doing and offer their help and support.

To all of our friends, I’d like to say thank you. You have made it possible for Sky Blue Dreams    to grow. We couldn’t have done it without you.

Your affirmation for the week:
I am choosing to surround myself with positive, happy people in my life.

Be well. Roxy

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Random thoughts about stress & fear

Everyday stress tends to cause or increase our body’s malfunctions. There are so many types of stress that continually drain our bodies of energy and our hearts of joy. Until about the 1950’s the only definition of stress had to do with construction, whether the girders of a building or a bridge would hold with the weight that would be put on it. Suddenly, ‘stress’ became a new meaning for how our minds and bodies react to the realities of daily life. Then in the 60’s we began to worry about the Cold War, ‘the bomb’, bomb shelters and the Vietnam war. As the world changed, our jobs became more technical, and more and more was required from us so stress began to affect people in different ways. Some people overeat, some can’t eat. Some began to smoke more. The more our behaviors changed, the more diseases we seemed to see develop and become more widespread.

The other thing is that these days we see so many people who are afraid. There are so many things changing that it becomes overwhelming. It’s almost epidemic, and most don’t see it for what it is. As we look around we see differences. Do we really have to be afraid of them? There are differences in people, differences in countries, differences in religion. If we stop and look around, don’t the differences in nature make things more beautiful? What if all trees were oaks? What if all flowers were daisies? If we look at a picture of a mountain we may say how beautiful it is. But what if that’s all there was, mountains followed by more mountains. Much as I love mountains, I would miss hills and valleys. I love the ocean, but if we lived on ships and all we could see were waves and sky it would be pretty boring. Would we all want to have the same haircolor or same figures? With everyone the same, what would we have to look forward to learning? If we can appreciate different cultures doesn’t that make us more of a whole person? When we talk to people individually we can become friends. We no longer see differences that we may have been afraid of… we see opportunities to learn.

Stress and fear are two of the most debilitating states to be in but their levels seem to be rising and that leads to illness. Your wellness depends on learning to overcome some of the trials in your life. Fear is a normal emotion but we aren’t meant to live in that state permanently. If we didn’t have any fear we might drive 90 mph on the freeway. For some reason though, we are afraid of so many almost everything. Isn’t it time to allow ourselves to live to the fullest? We limit ourselves to what we know as though everything else is bad. Perhaps what we need to understand that fear comes first and becomes stress. Learn to deal with the fear first.

These thoughts have been whirling around in my head since the shooting in Oak Creek. We should be celebrating people. Instead we’re often left in mourning. Fear and stress once again. There are many different ways to deal with fear and defuse the stress. If you can look directly at the fear, analyze it and reframe your thoughts about it. Are you 100% sure that there is a danger? If not, reframe what you know and what you believe you know. Many times in this way you can find a truth and make a decision.

A simple way to start and end your day:
May I be free from harm.
May I be free from worry, fear, and anger.
May I be happy.
May I be physically health and strong.
May I live with ease.

Greet each day with gratitude,


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