Taking Inventory or Happy Birthday

Two of my friends are having birthdays this weekend.There is 20 years difference in their ages and both are amazing women. The younger woman I have known for three years and the older woman has been my friend for more than 30 years. Now although I think it is useful to take an inventory every about where we are in our life, I don’t think it is appropriate to do an inventory for someone elses life. However it is quite appropriate for me to do a personal inventory about what their friendship means in my life.
1.They make me laugh which is the best stress management in the world.
2. They inspire me to be better, because a friend already thinks you are good enough.
3. I can say what I am thinking and they know I may be just thinking out loud, so they don’t hold me to it.
4. They trust me enough to be who they are and allow me the same privilege, even if somedays it is not our best self.
5. A friend helps you with your ideas if they are important to you even if they don’t understand what you are doing.
6. My friends are compassionate.
7. They are strong woman and together we are even stronger.
8. They are not afraid to reinvent themselves.
9. They are grateful for life, beauty, husbands, kids, grandkids, and lucky for me friendships.
10.They are working for the greater good in our world,and have no intention of stopping even if they are tired or frustrated.

I think that Jean Shinoda Bolen, M.D. said it best in her book “Crones Don’t Whine.”
“A crone is a woman that has wisdom, compassion, humor, courage, and vitality. She has a sense of truly being herself, can express what she knows and feels, and take action when need be. She does not avert her eyes or numb her mind from reality. She can see the flaws and imperfections in herself and others, but the light in which she sees is not harsh and judgemental. She has learned to trust herself to know what she knows.”

Happy Birthday Roxy and Lisa, I hope you both live to be 100 and continue to allow me to be your friend.

Have a brave heart as you face your dragon!

  I was thinking about some of the stories I heard this week and how some of the people I listened to were living as the hero of their own lives. We all are challenged by our own dragons and we find helpers along the way to talk to and bounce ideas off of. We need a Braveheart to face the changes. If we can remember the people who have gone before us and the stories than inspire us we can use them as a pattern.
I have been researching the history of some of the early settlers of our village and writing  their stories for a historical reenactment we are doing at the Fall Festival in October. How different life was in the 1800’s compared to now. People were brave enough to try something completely new moving far from their homes to places were they had nothing. I read about people who had small children, and lived in a hut with 1/2 a roof, no furniture until they had time to make it and little food until they had time to grow and preserve it. The stories are inspirational. They suffered poverty, sickness and war. But in the big picture we are all the same with different dragons. We all want the same thing. We all want to be loved and to love, we want to take care of our families and to have a purpose. We would choose to be healthy and have some time for fun. It is what people have always wanted.
It only seems sensible to learn from those that went before us. We know that we get more of what we think about. You can call it a self-fulfilling prophecy or think of it as your reticular activating system focusing on what your subconscious is desiring and creating new neural pathways. In other words we get more of what we think about. Moses Shongo an old Native American wrote in the 1800’s “Free yourself from negative influences. Negative thoughts are the old habits that gnaw at the roots of the soul.” This is the time to think of your heroes whether they are in this world or the next and learn from them.
So the tip for this week is that if you compare your life to what your ancestor had to do to just survive you feel lucky. Remember to focus on what you want and let go of what you don’t want. As Dorie says in Finding Nemo,”Just keep swimming”.
Have a brave heart my fellow travelers in this wild, precious world!